Forgive past abuses by another?

One may ask if I have just covered them up where they can do all kinds of harm inside like termites which are hidden in the walls of a house until it rots and comes crashing down.

Let me clarify a little. I have not covered up or forgotten anything. What helped me was the realization of my own sin and God's redeeming work in my life through the years after I came to know Him at age 14. Time in His word and learning that I truly am no more deserving of forgiveness than the worst murderer or criminal. Through realizing Gods grace for me and confessing my sin (agreeing with him about it and my lack of worthiness for His grace and forgiveness) I was able, by the power of His spirit to unconditionally forgive and in a sense "remember it no more" even though I do remember it..it has no power over me and I can look at those who have wronged me and see them with the eyes of God's grace and love. I also can admit my sin and ask their forgiveness.

I am touched and yes can come to tears when I see forgiveness poured out when it is so undeserved for I know this is evidence and only accomplished by The higher power. Ever watch the movie "Les Miserables"? If not, this movie has some neat examples of what I am talking about. The main character's life was changed when someone he wronged and he could have had him thrown in jail forever, yet instead he forgave him and it saved his life and changed him forever. He then became changed by this act of love and forgiveness, a new man and lived his life under a new code.


The Bible says that God literally inhabits or lives in the praises of His children which makes worship powerful for changing lives. What is even more amazing to me is when the Word says that "God is love". So if God = love then when we unconditionally love, others literally see and feel God. It is this love that changes lives and makes those who dont have God want what we have as Christians. This is supernatural and above our abilities in the flesh. When I think about this and examples I have seen it is so true. Knowing deep truths about religion and mentally trying to convince someone is of little value, but showing them and demonstrating love is what truly shows them God and this is the greatest proof there is of His existance and power. "They will know you are Christians by your love".

God's love compells me to love others and this love gives me the power to truly forgive. It starts though with my ackknowledgement of my own sin and repenting and falling before Him until a true work is done.

You are unable to do this in the flesh and your own power. It will happen though in the manner it happened to me and countless others. The Lord's Prayer does not tell us to do anything that God doesnt empower us to do with His spirit. Pray and meditate on these words and wrestle with God until a true work is done. "Seek me and you will find me if you seek after me with all your heart". This verse was a major bridge in my conversion. God keeps His promises and by this I am changed forever.

You are a work He is doing. He is right here waiting for you to let Him do a work that only he can do, to fix you. He opens a door and it can not be shut. He shuts a door and it can not be opened. He is almighty, all powerful, all knowing. He is the beginning and the end. He is sinless and pure in every way. There is nothing nor anyone nor anything that is anything like God as his holiness is so far beyond comprehension. No one can be compared to Him. There is a reason we will praise Him in heaven and on earth....He is worthy truly and when we see Him, this and the sense of it all will be evident and clear.

The very fact that you ask the questions you ask and try to break through the bitterness of past offenses is evidence there is some measure softness of heart left and He is working in you and on you. What an awesome gift. Reach out through the silence, uncertainty, and perceived inability of even finding and connecting with Him and watch how He comes to meet you.